What is your opinion on that?



Is an affair "Miscellaneous" or perhaps mainstream? I'm afraid I might be in the category with all the crazies and all their strange perversions. I wonder if people actually do these things, or just fantasize about them?



Unlike many of the Craigslist guys, I'm pretty normal when it comes to just liking and respecting a good woman, and unlike most of these guys I have a high IQ. My parents loved me, raised me right, and I followed "the rules" for the most part in my life. I was an "A" student, I went to a competitive University, I have a professional job, I got married and had kids, I stay in shape, I am fanatical about my diet, I have great sense of humor, young 40ish, handsome, and I have that decent six figure white collar job. With all that I have going on that is good, right and proper and has the blessings of Society bestowed upon them, I have to tell you, something is missing from my life. I thought about it a lot a few years back, I mean, how can you be unhappy when on the surface you seem to have everything?



It took me a while to figure out what it was, call it a midlife crisis or an awakening, but I went down that rabbit hole of self discovery and came to this conclusion: I'm missing that feeling of excitement and infatuation that we only find at the beginning and early stages of a relationship.



Think about it. We swoon with a new lover, we thrill with every kiss and touch, and we just think that person is so wonderful and so interesting. If you marry them and stick around a few years you see the other side of it, the "comedown" from that high. You are stuck at that point, you have the house, the kids, the pets, the in laws, all the couples you have as friends, the same old same old routine in your day to day life, even the love life becomes a familiar routine.

After a while a feeling builds...a desire for something different, you start to have the wandering eye and check out attractive members of the opposite sex, you start to think about what life would be like if your spouse was not around, you start to wonder if marriage was a mistake, you "wake up" and realize that you were sold a fairy tale happy ending that is far from the reality of your life.....



What do you do when you get to this place? You could get divorced, it's so extreme though. You could just paint a smile on your face and try to go about your life, many of us do that for years. You could be a little selfish and try to find some happiness for yourself. What do I mean? I'm talking about having an affair.

It happens all the time. People you know right now are having affairs and you don't even know about it, we don't talk about these things. An affair is about feeling good about yourself and your life for maybe the first time in years. You whip yourself back into shape for a new lover, you enjoy having a date for the first time in years, you swoon when you have a first kiss, you are so excited when you are finally alone together and are amazed at the passion that you share with your secret lover...truly it is an experience like no other in life.



The odd thing is that it helps your marriage. It takes the edge off, so you don't fight over stupid things at home, you are not so annoyed with your spouse, and you think about your lover and smile as you go through all those routines that have become your life. It's a crazy world. Trust me, I speak the truth about that. You can't know what I mean until you have been there yourself. Would you like to find a lover? I'm looking. I may be the only decent guy on here, it seems most of the others posted naked pictures of themselves or just wrote about sex. I'm guessing that they never had an affair, that no woman would have them. An affair is not a porn movie, it's more of a romantic comedy...yeah, an affair is definitely a chick flick :)